One of my favorite sayings is “You can’t give from an empty cup.” This quote came from Mother Teresa and implied you must take care of yourself in order to be able to give to others. There are 3 powerful tools you can use to take better care of yourself. They will help you improve your quality of health and life.
Tool #1 is to remember the quality of your life is equal to the quality of the questions you ask yourself. What kind of questions do you ask yourself on a daily basis? “Why do I always screw up?” or “Why am I such a loser” are not very self-empowering questions. Ask a negative question and you will in turn get a negative response. What if you asked yourself questions like “What can I learn from this situation, challenge, mistake or problem?” Get your internal compass pointed in the right direction through positive questions.
Tool #2 is to take a look at your contradictions. How about the fitness fanatic who loves going to the gym, but eats a diet full of sugar and fast food? What about the health expert who relies on smoking cigarettes to calm their nerves? Or even the preacher who visits prostitutes or steals from the collection basket – both are extreme contradictions. A hospital administrator recently questioned me as to why so many nurses appear to snack on junk food all day at work. His point was they need to be a frontline for healthy habits to the patients around them. We all have contradictions that show up in our behaviors. Look at yours and work to eliminate them, or at least reduce them.
Tool #3 is so simple it is easy to overlook. Here it is: keep your promises, especially to yourself. If you tell someone you are going to do something, do it. You benefit as much as they do by building your integrity muscle. If you make an appointment, keep it. Not even showing up is a huge void you establish internally.
The opposite of contradiction is congruency. The opposite of broken promises is integrity. Better internal questions point your internal compass in the right direction. Be kind and patient with yourself. Compassion is the opposite of criticism.